To disclose to an ex that you are seeing someone? Especially, when said ex (me) is genuinely happy that the other ex (him) is seeing someone.

Do we pretend our lives ended once we left one another?

Perhaps.

Our lives together have ended. But our separate lives go on, hopefully we’ll both meet someone who, now that we’ve each learned ten years of lessons, will benefit from that, as will each of us.

He still wears the clothing I gave him (basically every awesome t-shirt he owns), he wears them when out with his new person. There are parts of our pasts we obviously can’t erase and they will bleed into one another.

I still wear a necklace he gave me, and I wear it all the time so it’s inevitable that my new interests won’t see it. Maybe ask about it. And I’ll say where it came from. To be with me, is to accept my past

I would hope anyone he chooses to be with, accepts that I once sat on that couch (I bought that couch), bought that Psycho shower curtain, slept on her side of the bed, that parts of me remain there.

Why the lack of honesty about where our lives are going?

That hurts much more than making believe there is no one else.

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